A Kinder, Gentler Blog at The Middle-Aged Ingenue (middleagedingenue.com)

I know a lot of you enjoyed Mel’s Big and Tall.  The rants, the calling out of political assholes and hypocrites. If you want to see those posts, there still here.  Just scroll down and hit the previous posts thingy.   It was fun for me too.  For a while. I have archived this site and moved to a new one.  The Middle-Aged Ingenue

http://middleagedingenue.com/

I simply got tired of it. Being angry all the time. Felt like banging my head against the wall while making thousands of enemies.  I’m done with that.  At least at this level of intensity.  I’m tired of being attacked, of always having someone pissed off at me.  Contrary to what you may believe by reading these posts, I really am a nice person. I will always have my edge, however.  I’m writing about whatever strikes my fancy at any given times.  Tributes to my friends, film & t.v. reviews, my family life, work, anything.  It’s a lot of fun.

Visit my revised blog at Middle Aged Ingenue here on WordPress.  Or follow me on Twitter and/or Facebook. I may not be a fire-breathing dragon anymore, but I’ve not entirely put away my talons.

Namaste

Mel’s Big and Tall Morning Digest – 11/10/14

Big News

Instead of filling up my Facebook friends’ newsfeeds with my political postings, I’ve decided to condense them into one post per day.  Here you’ll find the most interesting, important, ironic, hypocritical and entertaining stories and memes I find online.  Now don’t say I’ve never done anything for you. 

Interesting blog post about how Democrats need to grow a pair.

HuffPo 11 10

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mark-olmsted/the-joy-of-losing-what-re_b_6117250.html

“With the success of Republicans in the midterm elections and the passage of Tennessee’s anti-abortion amendment, we can expect ongoing efforts to ban abortion and advance the “personhood” rights of fertilized eggs, embryos and fetuses.” 

So you can pretty much count on fertility treatments and in vitro fertilization being outlawed sometime in the near future if these people are allowed to have their way.  You may even go to prison for having a miscarriage or an accident.

NYT

http://nyti.ms/1pywAco

Another stupid, racist Republican son of a bitch equates the First Lady with a gorilla.  Another day, another asshole.

gorillaguyhttp://m.nydailynews.com/news/politics/gop-activist-depass-apologizes-joking-facebook-gorilla-related-michelle-obama-article-1.376792#bmb=1

Psuedo-Christian James Lankford from OK wants to fix our government with godly solutions.  Great!  Jesus believed in keeping church and state separate, paying your damn taxes without complaining, and giving away all your money to the poor and following him.  He also hated public displays of religion and prayer.  And hypocrites.  He was not a fan.

Lankford

http://www.addictinginfo.org/2014/11/07/senator-elect-wants-to-fix-national-debt-with-prayer-and-biblical-worldviews-video/

The NRA. They’re always losers in my book.

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http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/11/10/one-of-the-midterms-little-noticed-big-losers-the-nra.html

This morning’s meme.

bettybowers

I’ve Got Your “War On Christmas” Right Here.

Look at this: WaronXmas1

And this: waronxmas2

Because they’ve started so early, so will I.

The Kid and I were at the mall last week (before Halloween, mind you) picking up the final details of her costume. (Blue rock candy – meth.  If you have to ask, may I recommend Breaking Bad as your next Netflix binge?)  Imagine our surprise when, nearly a month before Thanksgiving, we see the mall totally decked out in their holiday finery.  Christmas music over the loudspeakers. Hell, the Hickory Farms kiosk was even set up.  Having Christmas shoved down my throat before I’ve even swiped the first piece of candy from The Kid’s trick-or-treat stash –  not cool. I’m pretty sure I quite loudly uttered a profanity or two during that shopping excursion.

But wait – you think this is early?  A friend of mine posted photos on Facebook, back in September, of all the Christmas displays at Hobby Lobby.  They know all about Jesus up in there.

I used to love Christmas.  The excitement, the spirit, the whole “good will toward men” business.  The shopping & wrapping, the cooking, the decorating, the visiting – loved it all.  Then something shifted.  I started hearing about this “war”.  This fake, bullshit meme about Christians being persecuted over the celebration of their highest holy day.  And it all started with a certain “news” outfit to gin up outrage, fear, hate, a way to portray the vast majority of Americans as victims. Per usual. And people bought it. Per usual.

I’m here to tell you that those “war on Christmas” assholes are all batshit crazy.  Go to any retail outlet right now. I guarantee it looks like Santa took a big mouthful of holiday spirit and did a nationwide spit-take.  Because it’s sour.  It isn’t ripe yet.

Oh, there is a “war” on Christmas alright, but it isn’t because of some atheist, heathen, Christian-hating agenda. Or the Socialist, Kenyan, Muslim President trying to take away not only your guns but your Jesus’ Birthday Celebration as well.  It’s because of what is represented in those photos posted above.  Like  A Charlie Brown Christmas has been saying for 49 years,  it’s the commercialization of the holiday that has ruined it.  Taken the “Christ” right out of it.

The meaning and spirit of the holiday have been tainted,  it’s been completely bastardized.  Disgusting.  The “Jesus Birthday Season” indeed.  The ostentatious spectacle of it all.   And the Faux News personalities and sheeple eat it up.  Eat. It. UP.  The earlier they can deploy their Christmas troops, the better.  Total crap.

You know what I think about when I see Christmas decorations in September and October?  Greed.  Debt.  Mob mentality. Corporate overreach.  Rich men, camels, needles.

And these words  “And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full.  But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.”  That’s what Christians are supposed to be doing at Christmas, right?  Worshiping.  Not making some pointed political statement or “my religion is better than your religion” power play.

I’m not a Bible thumper – not anywhere near.  I simply believe if you’re going to devote an entire quarter of the year to celebrate this man’s birth, you might want to pay attention – just a little – to what he had to say.  As Chris Rock says “Jesus was the least materialistic person ever to roam the Earth”.   I can’t say for sure, but based on what I’ve read, I believe he would be appalled.

Don’t get me wrong – I don’t begrudge people who shop early, put up the trees in their homes before Thanksgiving, any of that.  That’s cool.  It’s your house and your business.  Your celebration.  Happy holidays!  The only issue I have is that you make me look like a slacker.

What I don’t like is feeling manipulated.  And that’s all this is about – the decorations in September, the message that the more you spend, the more you love your family.  “War on Christmas” is just another tool to get you to spend and feed the corporate machine. The machine that feeds the corporate politicians and propagandists.  It’s not about Jesus or Christianity on any level.  It’s about division and fear and hate.  Basically, just like everything else coming out of the right-wing bullshit machine

I’m here to warn you – the first time this fall I hear “War On Christmas” or see it flung all over my Facebook or Twitter feed – look out.   After I school you on how what you’re celebrating actually has its roots in paganism,  I  might just decide to (symbolically, maybe) shove a candy cane up your wazoo. Minty fresh!

Happy Holidays.

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About Those “Pro-Life Christians……”

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*Reposted from Firebrand Progressives

Recently, a Facebook acquaintance asked for an explanation from me regarding how I could stand for what he sees as two conflicting issues. Sensible gun regulation and a woman’s right to choose. He believes that one cannot be “pro-abortion” and “anti-gun” when abortion kills children. (His language.) I’m not sure of his motive – he may have honestly wanted an answer – or he could have been trying to snare me into contradicting myself. What he did was allow me to solidify my stance on both issues, issues my friend believes to be mutually exclusive. I beg to differ. My response, with slight variations for editorial purposes, is below.

And now we have the fabulously ignorant, grossly uninformed  ramblings of Trump and his lap-it-up Deplorables to contend with. Will it ever end? 
Before you jump to conclusions and stop reading here, I would like to state that I am NOT against the 2nd Amendment.  That is a common misconception. I support the 2nd Amendment, as it is written (A well-regulated militia…you know). I do believe that we need more comprehensive regulation and that we need to enforce many of the laws that are on the books, for the best interest of everyone’s rights, gun owners and non-owners alike.

Some of the most troubling are the laws regarding confiscation of weapons from domestic abusers and gun show loopholes . Those laws are rarely enforced. In addition, recent polls show that 92% of the U.S. population – gun owners and non-owners – feel the same way. Why haven’t the legislators moved on this issue if they are really concerned with the sanctity of life? I don’t believe that is their real concern I believe they are concerned with money, power, and control.

As the 2nd Amendment upholds a person’s right to own a firearm reasonably and responsibly – that’s what the “well regulated” bit means – under the due process clause of the 14th Amendment, Roe v. Wade is the law of the land and has been for 41 years. Roe v. Wade upholds a woman’s right to a safe and legal abortion if she so chooses. Now would be a good time to clarify that being pro-choice doesn’t mean you are automatically in favor of abortion. No woman wants to be faced with such a heart-wrenching situation, ever. As a woman, who is in possession of the actual equipment, I am not so arrogant to think that it is my right to make blanket judgments for every female in the country based on my personal beliefs. And believe it or not, God doesn’t think it’s His right either.  Unfortunately, there are circumstances where a woman and/or her doctor and family conclude that abortion is the best or only option. Her choice. I believe that should be the decision of each individual, her family (if she wishes to include them) and her healthcare provider. And so does the Constitution. Which is why I believe the comparison is an interesting but faulty one, made by someone with little knowledge of either issue.

Unlike guns, which continue to be increasingly unregulated, especially since President Obama took office, and the slaughter at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, CT, women’s rights are being systematically attacked by right wing politicians, religious groups, or in most cases, some unholy combination of both. There is no argument about that. Proof of the attack on women’s reproductive rights is in the news every day, as are the barrage of reports of violent and “accidental” gun deaths.

Interestingly, abortion rates have reached a 30 year low, according to recent data.

Let’s think about this. Abortions aren’t available at Walmart or any other retail outlet that I’m aware of. But you sure as shit can buy a gun at Walmart and many other stores in your local strip mall. I’m not seeing Facebook photos of proud parents posing with Mom’s sunken belly after they’ve received their first abortion. I don’t see fairgrounds hosting “abortion shows”, people advertising abortions on Craigslist or Facebook, or people selling abortions out of the back of their SUV in some dark parking lot.

Not to say that backroom abortions no longer exist, but they certainly don’t make the news every day like firearm murders, suicides, “accidents” (let’s call them what they are – gun owner negligence incidents), and active shooter events do. There were 7 school shooting in January 2014 alone. There is no “abortion lobby” equal to the NRA, hellbent on manipulating our legislators and disseminating out-and-out lies to their acolytes and using their misinformed, low information army to further their agenda.(No, that is NOT what Planned Parenthood does. But there are plenty of anti-choice nut-job factions more than willing to lie to your face.)  In fact, the NRC has seen to it that the powers that be have been cutting off federal funding for research and stymieing data collection and sharing.  The NRA has purchased our politicians and twisted the law so much that it is illegal for pediatricians to mention gun safety to their patients. The National Rifle Association has done its damnedest to keep the American public in the dark regarding the facts. When it comes to data and hard numbers, some of the gun lobby’s favorite arguments are a bunch of crap.  And let’s not get started on the Open Carry terrorists who have recently crawled out of the woodwork.

Another reason Roe v. Wade exists is to ensure that abortion is a safe, legal, and regulated procedure –  opposite of the trend toward extreme gun ownership in our society today. Unlike the attempts to undermine women’s rights, the same “Christian” Republican/Tea Party legislators are turning a blind eye to epidemic gun deaths and are going in reverse with sensible gun legislation. Look at the failed bill Mae Beavers (R-TN) recently introduced. Her bill proposes legislation that would make enforcement of federal gun control measures in Tennessee illegal. (States rights, anyone?) You may also want to consider the many guns in parks, guns in bars, and guns in churches and schools bills that have been introduced or passed this year, just for starters. (That passed since this writing,) Interestingly enough, Beavers and Marsha Blackburn have proposed an amendment to the Tennessee state Constitution that would make all abortions illegal – even in the case of rape, incest, or when the mother’s life is threatened. Needless to say, this type of draconian legislation is being proposed across the U.S.  Hypocrites. Both “fine upstanding Christian women”.

I wonder if these holier-than-though tyrants have read the Old Testament, particularly Number 5: 11:31. Spoiler alert – it’s a story of a priest instruction a man on how to administer an abortion to his wife.

Attacks on women’s rights are extreme behavior and those attacks are happening daily, all over the country. To right wing religious extremists like Huckabee, Paul, Santorum, Blackburn, Kincannon, Akin, Martin, Pearce, etc., their attack on women’s rights issues aren’t so much about saving children as they are about subjugation and control of women- IRS audits on rape victims – really? We (women) are now the majority in the U.S., so I think these guys are getting panicky. Girding their loins.

Right wing extremists are also attempting to foist their fundamentalist religious agenda on an entire nation. An act that is actually unconstitutional, and at this point, unregulated. Do a quick internet search on all the anti-LGBT legislation of late. Attempts to legalize discrimination in the name of Jesus. See for yourself.

The hypocrisy of the right wing push to overturn Roe v. Wade under the pretense of being pro-life is sickening. They claim to be against abortion at all costs yet they are also against birth control, sex education, and are actively fighting to keep those tools away from women and girls, all the while doing their best to shame us for having normal, healthy sexual impulses.

They claim to be pro-life and want to insist that every fetus – even those conceived by rape or incest – be carried to term and born, yet they offer no options of assistance to the mother, no prenatal programs, no mental health care, nutritional assistance, no housing, education or job assistance, no adoption programs. After the child is born – same story. They’re cutting programs for head start and public education, nutrition, transportation – you name it.

If these holier-than-thou anti-choice hypocrites would actually back up their so-called pro-life stance with real substance and viable alternatives to abortion, perhaps we pro-choicers might be more inclined to entertain the idea of taking them seriously. Give women an opportunity for true choice. A real chance. Without that follow-through, the argument merely looks like exactly what it is – hypocrisy, subjugation, disrespect, oppression and religious battering.

In addition, if these people (mostly men, strangely enough) were really pro-life, they would be doing every thing in their power to stanch the epidemic flow of gun violence that has overtaken our country. Gun violence is no longer a political issue. It is a public health crisis. Yet the right wing/tea party/Christian/Republican politicians prove regularly that they value the cold steel murder weapon over human life. They value the money the NRA is handing them. Their perceived power over the “weaker sex”.

Here are the questions that should really be asked – “How can you call yourself a pro-life Christian and allow rampant gun violence to continue? Allow mothers and children to live in abject poverty with no hope for a better future?” That is NOT pro-life. By my estimations, my understanding of the definition of Christianity, and Jesus’ teachings, that is not the behavior of Christians, either.  And FYI – God was the original AUTHOR of choice and free will.

Here’s a message to the Religious Right: Yes – Freedom of religion is a constitutional right. By all means, believe what you like. But you will not be allowed to cherry pick and turn what is supposed to be a loving message into a judgmental verdict to suit your argument. An argument that seeks to oppress 51% of the population. Remember that statistic. We sure will come election day.

Christians are followers of Christ, by definition. Jesus had a lot to say about how children are to be treated, the less fortunate, sinners, our enemies, our neighbor – and especially “the least of these”. Until there is evidence of Jesus’ teachings in your actions, don’t call yourselves Christians. You are tainting the moniker for those who actually exhibit those qualities and live by the doctrine. Those who seek to do good in the world.

It should also be noted that many of the anti-women legislators and their followers are also gun hysterics. (I’m NOT speaking every gun owner, mind you. There are many responsible, law-abiding, reasonable gun owners out there.) I’m referring to the extremists who are aligning with the likes of Ted Nugent, and are pushing to move toward no gun regulation whatsoever. They believe their God endowed Americans with the right to own a personal arsenal, and believe that they have the right to purchase, carry, brandish and operate their weapons in any unfettered way they see fit, anywhere they see fit, regardless of possible consequences. They will have NO government interference. Facts and statistics mean nothing to them. They will not even discuss the issue without becoming belligerent, insulting, bullying, misogynistic and threatening. At least that has been my unfortunate experience.

Any mention of regulation or change immediately translates to “The government is coming to take my guns!!!” The issue is completely black and white to these elected extremists. They are incapable of compromise or seeing any type of gray area. And every political or social issue resides in the gray area. A common taking point among this group is that background checks and regulations on assault weapons will have no effect on the instances of gun violence. That the law will not keep guns out of the hand of the insane or the criminal. So we shouldn’t have laws. At all. Because no one follows them. There is also the evergreen argument/NRA talking point that “cars kill more people than guns”. Not anymore. Those statistic have changed. That is why we have age restrictions, testing, licensing, registration, and insurance – an entire system set up for automobile ownership. Suggest we do the same with firearms, stand back and see what happens.

Perhaps we should make this analogy: The major argument from the firearm extremist/hysteric is that the 2nd Amendment secures every American’s right to own guns – as many as they want, any variety.The consensus among this demographic is that they desperately need an arsenal for personal protection. I understand those feeling of fear and vulnerability. And I sure some people do feel safer with a firearm in the home. I would like to offer this challenge. Consider that women might feel the same way about their rights to control their own reproductive health and their own bodies. Keep government regulation fair and reasonable.

Fortunately, extreme government interference and prohibition will never happen in either circumstance. And it never should. We need fair-minded, sensible regulation on both of these issues, not government over-reach. History has shown us that prohibition is not successful. But the only people speaking of prohibition of both guns and women’s rights belong to the party on the right. Why is that?

I know that you can be pro- choice – which doesn’t only encompass abortion, hence the word “choice” – and pro-sensible gun regulation. Because I am. And I don’t think that hypocritical Conservatives get to use the term “pro-life” anymore. Because they are anything but.

For more information and further reading:

The Bible Tells Us When A Fetus is a Living Being

Abortion and Judeo-Christian Religion

Gun Worship is Blasphemy

American Fascists

Also see The Bible – Numbers 5:11-31

Sold Out

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Mel’s Big and Tall has sold out. That’s right. I’m actually getting paid to do this now. From here on out, in this space I will be posting links to my articles on Progressive Populist.org.

And if you like them, share them and praise me in the comments. Or if you hate them, share them and trash me in the comments.  It’s all the same to me.  I get paid per hit.

Here are a few of my most recent articles.

Maine GOP Candidate Cites Domestic Violence Conviction As Proof of Integrity

Sarah Palin’s New Year’s Revolution

Coon Lover and Gun Dealer Enters TN Gubernatorial Fray

Enjoy!

The Special Ones

aura

Like many of you, I’m a member of middle class.  A suburban wife and mom.  I’m average.  I live in an average home.  Drive an average car.  Live an average life.  I’m not special.  I wish I was special.   Most of my friends and family are average too.  And like you, being surrounded every day by so much mediocrity, you can understand how sometimes we might forget that there are very special people who walk among us.  They may look like us – blend in with the crowd –  but trust me, they are unique.  They are so extraordinary that they deserve to be treated differently than you and I.  Think of the U.S. version of royalty.  Their problems, desires, whims, feelings, and time are so much more serious, valuable, and important than yours and mine.  I would like to present to you two stories of two such individuals.   The Special Ones.
Please brace yourself for this depraved story of crime and injustice. I apologize in advance for the brutality. But this could be going on in your backyard. If you live in a gated community. This hair-raising tale was the lead story on the 6:00 evening news on Monday, Nov. 18.

http://www.newschannel5.com/story/24004180/designer-shoes-purses-stolen-from-brentwood-home?fb_action_ids=10201529920422483&fb_action_types=og.recommends&fb_ref=.UovmZf2vmp0.like&fb_source=aggregation&fb_aggregation_id=288381481237582
In Williamson County, TN, nestled in her gated community in the exclusive suburb of Brentwood, this poor woman, Pat Turner tells the harrowing story of how over $100K worth of her precious handbags and shoes have gone missing from her purse and shoe room.  A bedroom she had converted just to house these treasures.  (Her shoes and purses have their own room.  My brothers didn’t even have their own rooms when we were growing up.  Just proves that we were, and always will be, inferior. Inferior to the accessories of this tragic figure.)  And the police – completely worthless.  They’re not putting enough time, energy or resources into solving this heinous crime. What is this world coming to? I mean really. Why is this case not at the top of their priority list?  Why do we pay taxes?  Where is the justice? I don’t even feel safe walking down the street anymore.  (Well, actually I do, but if I had designer accessories – say like a purse that cost more than some people can afford to spend on food per year – I probably wouldn’t.)   This poor woman – she’s been through enough already. God forbid, what if she has to move her things back into the walk-in closet because they are simply too sparse now?  My Lord, Brentwood Police – have you not been listening?  Have you no heart?  She gets COMPLIMENTS on her shoes and purses!  She gets JOY out of wearing them. This has been hurtful to her and it’s also very frustrating.  How DARE you deprived her of compliments and joy!  Not to mention that there are Chanel bags and designer shoes out there, probably with strangers, shoved into some regular-sized closet,  longing for the comfort and safety of their Purse and Shoe room.  Heartless bastards.  I’d like to make a suggestion this holiday season.  Perhaps if you have extra funds, you could donate to Mrs. Turner so she might be able replenish her collection, assuring that the remaining several-hundred-thousand-dollars-worth of bags and shoes don’t get too lonely during this, the season of sharing.  But not the season of materialism – oh, hell no.  But the season of generosity toward  your fellow man.  And woman.  And handbag.
Next I would like to present Mister Jim Howe:
In Cumberland County, TN we have this lovely gentleman.  You can tell he’s a gentleman because he’s so polite to the school secretary.  Even though she doesn’t seem to understand that Mr. Howe cannot be bothered with mundane minutia like car line.  And rules.  And the little fact that we know that this incident was most likely planned, since his girlfriend was recording the entire fiasco on her phone.  As the mom of a teenager, I have spent many a day whiling away the hours trapped in the car line.  No one enjoys that.  I know where Mr. Howe is coming from.  But the structure of the school dismissal process is necessary evil.  A finely honed evil.  And necessary for many reasons. Safety of our children being the first one that comes to mind.  Bless his special heart.  Mr. Howe doesn’t see it that way.  He made  arrangements so he doesn’t have to abide by anything as bourgeois as public school rules and regulations.. And dammit, neither should his children.   My first question when I saw this video was “What if everyone wanted to check their kids out early? What if they made “arrangements” as well?  What the kind of chaos would that cause?”  But then I remembered.  Everyone isn’t special.   (By the way, who actually picked up those poor kids, what with Daddy being hauled off to jail and girlfriend serving as documentarian AND having to move the car?)   Oh, and if you have extra extra funds this holiday season, please donate to Mr. Howe’s defense fund.  We need to protect him from the violent scourge that is taking over our public education system. The school resource officer.

The link to his site is on the video here:

http://www.opposingviews.com/i/society/crime/tennessee-parent-arrested-after-demanding-school-release-his-children-video
The Elite.  Not coming from that type of aristocratic stock,  I fear I’ll never understand them.  But I can try.  I hope that I have done my part to informed you of  their presence.  They walk among us.  And during the holidays,  remember be kind to strangers.  For you never know when you might be entertaining a Special One.

Revival

BCBCI’m taking an acting class and one of our assignments was to tell a “First Time” story.   Here’s mine.

When I was growing up, my family never took a real vacation to the beach, a national park or to Disneyland.  We never wanted to.  We always went to visit my mother’s enormous family in the Blue Ridge Mountains.  There was always something fun, exciting and different to do.  For me one of those novel things was going to church.  A little brick church within walking distance of my grandparents’ house, nestled in a hollow, sitting on land my family had donated over a century before.   The roots run deep.  And I loved that.

One summer evening when I was 9, there was a lot of excitement buzzing around the house.  It was the first night of Summer Revival.  I didn’t know what it was, but it sounded like a very big deal – the social event of the season.  Everyone would be there.  I couldn’t wait to go.  Even with my injury – I had stepped on a hornet that morning and my foot was swollen to double its normal size.  And I got to borrow someone’s crutches. Those too were a novelty.  So off I went to what I expected to be a big party or festival.  Boy was I in for a surprise.  What started out as a normal church service quickly turned into the most horrifying event of my young life.  Satan was lurking around every corner, ready to steal my soul and inhabit my cold black heart. Tales of lakes of fire, eternal pain and suffering, damnation and separation from all those who loved me.  Because I was a bad, bad girl.  Because I hadn’t accepted the gift that had been offered to me.  With the combination of insect venom, Benadryl, and sin coursing through my veins, I sat in shame, shaking and sobbing for the remainder of the service.  Not a moment too soon, the Devil’s Ringmaster transformed into the kind, forgiving preacher who finally issued the invitation.  I was the first one to pop out of my seat, shuck those crutches, and hobble up to the altar to accept my free gift and save my mortal soul.  I was surrounded by aunts and uncles, my grandparents, in the arms of my great-grandfather – tears streaming down both of our faces.  I was saved.

As an adult who doesn’t subscribe to that belief system, I look back on that memory today as terrifying, a bit abusive and oddly, one of my most treasured memories of my extended family.  They meant well and they loved me. Enough to literally scare the hell out of me.